So your best friend from college got a new job and won’t be eligible for vacation. She (he?) won’t be able to be there -- do you get someone else?
A few things to consider: You could hurt someone’s feelings by making it clear they were “second best” if you ask them to substitute, and if you do get a substitute, will you hurt the original honor attendant’s feelings by making her/him feel replaceable?
Also, the MOH and the BM actually have some specific tasks. The maid of honor normally helps with the veil and bouquet, and the best man will often distribute payments on behalf of the groom while he’s busy in the receiving line. Both of them are expected to be right there, able to help at the drop of a hint. If you don’t specifically ask, the "substitute" attendants may not think they’re needed in that way.
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