One of the queries we get a lot in our AskMartha mailbox (askMartha@marthastewartweddings.com) is this one:
My fiance and I have been established in a household for a couple of years now. We really don't need very much. Can I still accept a shower if someone offers?
I've recently run across the advice that a bride in this situation should decline any shower offer.
I object! Absolutely, you can accept a shower, even if you don't really need much in the way of household stuff. You and your shower hostess can come up with a theme that steers your guests toward gifts that you do need or want.
Here are just a few themes to share with your shower hostess:
1. A "memories" shower: Guests bring a photo, video, or even just a story (if they don't want to write it down, tape them telling it at the shower) of the bride or groom.
2. An "exotic ingredients" shower: Ask guests to bring a recipe that uses their ingredient.
3. A "honeymoon" shower, based on your destination
4. A "movie/books/music" shower
(Got any other ideas to add to the list?)
Or, just keep the guest list small, and let the people who know you best decide what they'd like to give you. You might find yourself touchingly surprised!
Wishing for other bridal-shower themes? See our gallery!