Q: A relative whom I'm not close with is expecting to be in my wedding party. Do I need to include her?
A: Many brides feel pressure to include more people than they want to in their wedding party when they're actually not required to ask anyone to participate. That being said, just because you don’t have to consider other people’s desires when selecting attendants doesn’t mean you shouldn’t. If you find yourself in a sticky situation, you have to do a cost-benefit analysis: Weigh how bad the fallout of the hurt feelings will be versus how involving an extra person will affect your vision of your day. If saying no will create family tension, come up with a smaller-yet-integral job for them, like handing out programs or doing a reading.