The past month or so has seen a cavalcade of wedding posts from not-so-usual suspects—it being the height of wedding season and all. And not all of them are positive, especially when it comes to gift registries.
First came an essay by Slate’s business and economics correspondent Matthew Yglesias, who denounces wedding registries as “wasteful, unfair, and inefficient.” In an era where the average bride and groom are older than in previous generations, he argues, and where most couples have already established their households by cohabiting before marriage, gifting newlyweds has come to mean “buying things for people that they haven’t bought for themselves because they think they’re overpriced.”
Then last week, Jezebel entered the fray, picking up a story about a wedding gift gone horribly wrong—all captured via text and Facebook messages and reprinted in a Canadian newspaper. The invited guest, thinking himself clever, went off the registry and brought a gift basket he assembled full of gourmet and sweet treats to a wedding. What followed was a nasty exchange between giver and recipient that included this, from one of the brides: I'm not sure if it's the first wedding you have been to, but for your next wedding... People give envelopes. I lost out on $200 covering you and your dates plate... And got fluffy whip and sour patch kids in return…
I’m not sure where I stand on the whole registry thing, at least in its most formal, traditional sense. But I do recognize it’s an issue people can get super-passionate about—on both sides of the aisle.