Given that the save-the-dates are out, it is time to get serious with a best-we-can-be before the wedding day routine. I have always been a big proponent of skin care—my medicine cabinet is full of exfoliating, anti-aging, moisturizing serums that lift and repair. If I am bored on a Sunday, it's time for a deep cleaning mud mask and a scented salt soak. Rusty, on the other hand, thinks washing his face at the gym with the green goo that is labeled soap (but we all know is really water/alcohol with food coloring) is like a trip to the facialist. Knowing that Rusty is never going to be as obsessed as I am with products, I gave him three simple things as an early gift: a nice cleanser and facial moisturizer from Mario Badescu (a Martha favorite!) and some Ceramide eye gel. It is bare minimum, but better than nothing.
If as a bride, you can’t get your groom to, uh, groom, here is one piece of advice that I give every bride: If you have a summer or fall wedding, especially for island destination weddings, slather your groom with sunscreen like a baby for all pre-wedding activities. I know it sounds like common sense, but I have seen way too many wedding photos where it looks like the bride is marrying a very pink raccoon.
So now that I have trashed my partner’s skin routine, I will be honest about one of my own, the gym. I have a gym in my building and I have been there, but only to buy M&Ms out of the vending machine. Wedding photos are timeless and I want to be in the best physical shape possible, as most brides and grooms do. I have also heard that exercising will reduce the stress of planning the wedding, but can’t confirm that yet. As part of the agreement that Rusty will use his new facial products, I have agreed to three days per week working out with him. I am told that this is something we can do together before the wedding that will help bring us closer?!
Lastly, a word about hair. I have an obsession with hair—an Italian curse. Great hair is not without work, and I have high-end shampoos, relaxers, conditioners, pomades, and pastes. Again, Rusty uses the gym product, this one is blue which I am sure is the same as the green goo, water and alcohol with food coloring. He actually takes pride in the fact that he never pays more than $11 for a haircut (in Manhattan!). For the wedding, he has agreed to use my stylist, Jerami Brown at De Berardinis Salon. I often suggest Jerami to brides in New York for their wedding day, too. Given that you don’t want to try someone new on your wedding day, Rusty had his first big boy cut last week…and really enjoyed it. I swear it took a year off his look.