It seems like I'm always playing catch up with my New York magazines. I'm busy! They're weekly! It's a lot to get through! Anyway. I was reading an issue that's a couple weeks old, and came across this amazing article about how straight couples have been working language from a pro-marriage-equality court opinion into their vows. Some are including it to show solidarity with their gay friends, while others simply feel a connection to its sentiments. Whatever the reason, it's also simply a breathtakingly beautiful piece of writing. Here's an excerpt:
“Civil marriage is at once a deeply personal commitment to another human being and a highly public celebration of the ideals of mutuality, companionship, intimacy, fidelity, and family … Because it fulfills yearnings for security, safe haven, and connection that express our common humanity, civil marriage is an esteemed institution, and the decision whether and whom to marry is among life’s momentous acts of self-definition.”
It was penned by Massachusetts Supreme Judicial Court Chief Justice Margaret H. Marshall in the Goodridge v. Department of Public Health decision, which can be read here.
I would've loved to adopt some of this wording for my own vows, and I thought some of you might like it for yours. It really gets at the heart of what committing to someone is all about, you know? What other readings or poems are you thinking of using?