We received this sticky-situation query on our Facebook page:
Our destination wedding has been pushed back due to financial reasons. Initially, we invited everyone on our guest list to an engagement party. Now it’s been a year since the party, and we still have another year to our new date. We’re not as close to some of the people as we were when we made our original guest list, and I’m wondering if we still should include them? There have been no other wedding-related events related since and no invites sent. Thoughts?
There’s a difference between not inviting some people because of the expenses associated with a higher head count and not inviting them because you’re no longer feeling the love. Regardless, if they came to your engagement party, they should be invited to come to your wedding. (The same holds true for any pre-wedding event, no matter how much time lapses between it and the big day.) But if you’ve truly had a falling-out with a former friend and have no plans to repair the relationship, then do what you must. If, on the other hand, you like the person but just aren’t as tight these days, be aware there’s still a price to pay for leaving them out: their friendship.