Some of the questions we field via our AskMartha e-mail box (askMartha@marthastewartweddings.com) aren't from brides or grooms -- they're from guests.
Today's question was about whether to bring a gift to an engagement party. The traditional answer is that engagement parties aren't gift-giving occasions (they're not a shower -- a gift opening ritual is not supposed to be part of it) -- so, no. But in many circles, gifts have become very standard.
Our reader's other question was, "What would be a good gift?"
Well, of course, a subscription to Martha Stewart Weddings would always be good -- wink, wink, nudge, nudge. As would a copy of Martha Stewart's Keepsake Wedding Planner (I worked on that one -- I know it's good!).
But I think an engagement gift should not be expensive -- under $30 (both of these qualify). Oh, okay, your mom can spend more. But aunts and friends? Theirs should be an "I'm happy to hear the news" gift. (So if you register before your engagement party -- which might be smart -- populate it with ideas in the low price range. You can add your china/crystal/flatware now, regardless of price, since they're classics, but hold off on appliances and other big-ticket items.)
But you ladies are in the thick of it -- how would you answer this reader? What would you tell other brides to expect?