Normally, the bachelorette party is a gift given to the bride by her closest friends (often spearheaded by the MOH).
Once upon a time, it was a night out at the bars, or dinner at a restaurant, with the guests picking up the tab for the themselves and the bride.
Then limos were added (hey, if you're all drinking, it's safer! Plus it's fun). And then spa visits, and last but not least, weekends in Vegas.
I've noticed that more and more, the bride is planning, or choosing, the party. It makes me nervous, etiquette-wise. How can a bride say, "Please go on a big out-of-town trip in my honor"? It seems cheeky. It's tough enough when it's the MOH who makes that invitation or request.
There aren't any helpful rules -- well, there's "don't spend other people's money," and "don't pressure other people to spend money" and "don't be a wimp and spend money you can't afford, just say no." But everyone has to sort it out for themselves.
How are you and your friends handling the bachelorette party?