A soon-to-marry colleague here in Martha-ville shared her guest-list dilemma the other day on our walk to the subway. (Maybe you can't pick my brain on the evening commute, but you can send me your questions at this address: askMartha@marthastewartweddings.com.)
She's struggling with the size of her guest list, and the usual tactic of seeking advice from the family matriarch isn't helping: Grandma is the one who insists all 300 people, including cousins' children's children, be invited.
This isn't uncommon. As the family tree grows, it often spreads, adding branches. And those people at the top of the tree have a different perspective from those who are down among the shoots and leaves. It's hard for grandparents and great grandparents to admit that their offspring aren't close anymore.
How are your family elders influencing your guest-list decisions? What branches of the family tree are you including?