According to the Hudson Valley News, a weekly newspaper in New York's Dutchess County that is making the most of Chelsea Clinton's plans to marry in their coverage area, wedding presents have started arriving at Astor Courts, where the wedding reception will be held.
As this magazine's etiquette maven, I'm thinking, "What?"
For a long time now, us etiquette folks have been trying to persuade people to go to weddings empty-handed -- because their gifts were sent to the couple before or after the wedding itself. Making the couple and their families wrangle gifts on the wedding day is not a helpful thing.
So, these gift-givers are on the money to send their gifts ahead -- but I'm wondering why they're sending them to the reception venue. (Maybe the Clinton and Mezvinsky families have given some indication that this is their preference, but it is sort of odd.)
Where should such gifts be sent? To the bride, if you know her address; or to her via her mother, if you know hers. (And yes, tradition says gifts for weddings are given to the bride, even when they are intended for the couple; but in 2010, nobody's going to be insulted if you send the gift to the groom because you know him better.)
If you don't have any address, send them to the return address from the invitation's mailing address. (Of course, if a guest buys from the registry, the store will have an appropriate address on file, but it normally won't share that, for privacy reasons. This I know, because I tried.)
Have you gotten any wedding presents sent to you early? Does this seem to happen in your social or family circles?