Posted by Talley Sue Hohlfeld, Etiquette Expert
Every now and then, we get a request for ideas for how to decorate the card box. And when the issue comes up, there is always a staffer or two who says, “What do you mean, ‘the card box’?” They've never seen them. And I think we've never covered it because we don't really like it (but I'll admit—I'm guessing).
In many circles, people do not come empty-handed to a wedding; they bring their gift to the church or reception. If it’s an envelope with a check or cash, it’s too easy to steal, and too tempting. So the couple needs somewhere secure to keep it.
Hence, the card box. A box (or sometimes a birdcage) with a slit in the top for people to drop off the envelope. At the weddings I go to lately, the bride carries a satin purse or drawstring pouch (if it’s a very big wedding, it gets heavier and heavier as the night goes on).
I wish we could somehow eliminate both of these objects—that we could train wedding guests to send their gifts before or after the event, so that on the day of the wedding, everyone can concentrate on the relationships, and not on the gifts or the logistics.
Are you going to need to wrangle envelopes of gifts on your wedding day? If so, what is your solution?