By Talley Sue Hohlfeld, Etiquette Expert
This coming Monday, according to the calendar that hangs above my desk, is Memorial Day Observed.
It's considered to be a holiday weekend, and most offices are closed, giving you an extra day to get away. But somebody somewhere is getting married this weekend, which means you may be wedding-bound instead of beach- or barbecue-bound.
So, is it rude to plan a wedding for the same weekend that your friends and family normally have vacation plans? One that might trigger higher airfare or hotel costs?
Or is it considerate? After all, you've chosen a weekend that lets them travel without burning a vacation day.
Etiquette has no ruling except the blanket ruling, which says that the host of an event may choose any date and time, and that guests may decline. So if you choose a holiday weekend, you aren't rude. But you're risking a low turnout.
Did you consider a holiday weekend for your wedding? What were the deciding factors? And even if you didn't, how well do you think one would go over with your respective families?