Posted by Grace Bonney, of Design*Sponge
Our wedding is 24 days away, so I thought I’d take a little time out today to slow down, put away my crafting supplies, and reflect on what is about to happen, and how my, and Aaron’s, life is about to change.
My last few posts have been a little less than cheery because well, it’s been a little stressful dealing with a few aspects of the planning. But today I wanted to stop and think about the things that I’m looking forward to, happy about, and thrilled to have just around the corner.
So I thought I’d take a queue from one of my favorite guilty-pleasure movies, 10 Things I Hate About You, and switch it up and share something more personal: 10 Things I Love About Getting Married.
These are my top ten things about getting married that I’m looking forward to. I hope to update this post after we’re married next month to let you know if these things were and are all that I hoped for.
10. Getting to dress up. Ok, so underneath my lack of desire for many of the wedding traditions is a girl who loves to get dolled up for a special occasion. I can’t wait to wear my fancy new shoes, have my hair done in pretty braids, and celebrate. Aaron and I are rarely dressed to the nines anymore, so it will be nice to feel fancy together.
9. Seeing Aaron with his ring. It may sound silly, but I’ve felt slightly alone being the only one wearing a ring for the past year and two months. For me it’s not about ownership or some sense of possession, but rather feeling like we’re a married couple, and not just an engaged girl.
8. Our first morning as husband and wife. We’re taking a 2 day mini-honeymoon in Charleston after the wedding (since we decided to put off our honeymoon for a bit), and I’ve been dreaming about our first morning together. Sitting at a breakfast table somewhere near the water and quietly sipping coffee while holding hands—hands with wedding rings on them. Uh oh, watch it—it’s about to get a whole lot sappier. Sorry.
7. Getting to call Aaron my husband. Boyfriend hasn’t felt sufficiently important for a few years and “Fiancé” always felt so stuffy and formal to me. Husband sounds just right.
6. Joining the world of people who’ve decided to commit their lives to someone else. Whether that’s through a marriage, a commitment ceremony, or some other form of celebration, I feel an impending sense of kinship with other committed couples. I guess I’ve never really thought about it much, but I feel like I’m joining a club that I didn’t even know I wanted to join—but I’m glad I am.
5. Looking around the reception and seeing all of the people who are most important to us. We’re from different parts of the country and our friends are, too. It’s going to be totally surreal, and totally wonderful, to see them all next to each other in one space—in Savannah. I can’t believe they’re all traveling this far in this economy just for our big day.
4. Having my friends from almost every stage of my life next to me while I start a new phase of my life. I’m so honored to have kept a few friends from my childhood and I’m so glad they’ll be with me, along with friends I’ve made over the past few years, and of course, my future sister-in-law.
3. Looking at my mom during the ceremony. If there’s one thing that will really get me started (crying, that is), it will be looking at my mom and sharing a smile and a knowing look with her. She’s always been so much more than a Mom to me and I’m already tearing up just thinking about that moment. Oh, here I go…
2. Walking down the aisle with my dad. I think a lot of little girls dream of wedding days and white dresses, but that’s never been me. What I look forward to is that special moment when I hold his arm, smile and walk down the aisle.
1. Just being married to Aaron. I’ve spent almost all of my time with this wonderful person over the past five years and I can’t wait to spend the next 65 or 75 as his wife. I feel so very lucky.