Posted by Grace Bonney, of Design*Sponge
Aaron and I are only six weeks away from the big day, and I’m starting to panic. Not about getting married, but about everything coming together. There are so many little loose ends that need to be sewn up that I’m trying to just take it one project at a time. I’m really starting to understand the whole “stressful wedding planning” thing now. I’m thankful, though, that it’s only the last few weeks that are like this.
Last week I realized that we’d given people an RSVP deadline that was way too late and would put our calligrapher in a place where she couldn’t finish in time. So this week I’ve been calling and emailing people about their attendance so I can get names and table numbers off to her in time to make tags and have them sent to Georgia for the wedding.
Then I realized…table numbers! Seating assignments! Argh! Aaron and I didn’t think about that at all yet, only that we didn’t want to assign specific seating. But just about everyone I know has told me that assigning tables was a necessity.
So, now I’m sitting here with a list of 90 names trying to figure out how to make this work.
My question to you guys: What do you do when almost 90% of your wedding list is comprised of married couples? I always hate being seated at a singles table (I’ve been at my fair share in the past) or, even worse, the “random” table (Aaron and I always seem to be at that table) of people that the hosts couldn’t figure out where to seat.
Is it wrong to mix single people in with married couples? Is it wrong to group people who don't know each other together?
My gut instinct is to group people who know each other together because if I went to a wedding with a small group of people I know, I’d want to be seated with them.
If that’s the case, here’s a bigger question: Is it wrong to put married couples on a single table card? Ours will be little hanging cards, and I thought it would be nice to put more time into fewer cards by doing “John and Ashley Smith” instead of a separate card for each person in the couple. But is that lame? My “tacky” meter is starting to rise a bit so I wonder if this will come off as cheap, and not just a way to allow me to spend more time on nicer card stock and the details that go into each card.
Has anyone done this or been on the receiving end of joint cards like this? Did you like it or hate it?
The questions are pouring out of me now— help! Panic has set in! What do I do about our families? I’m not a fan of giant long wedding tables, so we’re doing groups of 10 at tables. But I can’t fit our whole wedding party and our families at one. Will I offend the wedding party and family if we’re split into a few tables? Should we sit with our parents over friends? Ack! And lastly, why didn’t I figure this out earlier?