Posted by Grace Bonney, of Design*Sponge
After 10 months of thinking of weddings, you’d think I wouldn’t be surprised to find out there is a set of “rules” for just about every aspect of wedding planning.
I had already dealt with people’s expectations in terms of the dress, the name-changing, and my bridal party, but I figured when I got to my invitations I’d be in the clear.
Right? Not so much.
Because the economy has decided to tank further and further as our wedding date approaches, we’ve been cutting back on certain aspects of the planning wherever we can. And one of the easiest things to cut for me was calligraphy.
I love calligraphy just as much as the next girl, but I decided that addressing all of my invites myself, although time consuming, would be worth the extra money we would save. I don’t have the best handwriting in the world (years of communicating solely through a computer will do that), but I managed to find a nice white paint pen to make our invitations look pretty and well, handmade. Most aspects of the wedding are handmade anyway, so I figured why not keep it homespun for the writing as well?
[Quick note- if you’re looking to handwrite your invites but want the look of calligraphy, check out this genius DIY project from Jennifer that gives you the look for a whole lot less. If only I’d found this before I mailed mine out!]
It turns out some people I knew thought that hand addressing was a little lame (and/or “shocking”), but apparently my lack of including terms like “Mr. and Miss” was even worse.
For me, the bottom line was our wedding is not a formal event. We’re not formal people. We’re pretty laid back and we just want everyone to be comfortable and have fun. For some reason, addressing our friends as “Mr. and Mrs. So-and-So” just didn’t seem right. So I chose to just write first and last names.
I’ve gotten some interesting feedback from people who were “surprised” I was so informal, but I think at the end of the day it’s much more representative of who we are as a couple.
When you wrote your invitations, did you include formal titles? Or did you keep it informal? I’m curious to hear if anyone else got an earful about going the informal route…