Posted by Talley Sue Hohlfeld, Etiquette Expert:
If you're recently engaged (over the holidays, perhaps?), here's a little-known etiquette rule that might interest you:
Once a couple becomes betrothed, the groom's parents
should initiate contact with the bride's parents within the first
several weeks. If possible, they should extend a social invitation.
This probably stems from the common etiquette idea that the people in
the position of strength should reach out to those in the
less-established position. And brides used to leave their parents' home
to become part of their new husband's family. The groom's parents would
want to reassure the bride's that they were pleased with the match, and
that they'd take good care of their little girl.
As I said, it's little-known, and there is nothing wrong with any
But it is a good time for them to meet--even if they
already know one another! Relationships have changed with the
engagement, and there are lots of delicate negotiations ahead. It's helpful for a bride and groom to know that their
parents have created or renewed a friendly relationship.
Have your parents met? Who initiated it, and how was it engineered?