I knew as I said in the original post about guests wearing white to a wedding that people have strong and varied opinions on this, and your comments have really underscored that for me. Wow! Obviously, I will never choose my outfit for a wedding again without thinking of this "conversation" with all of you.
(For those of you who don't know what we're all talking about, see Monday's post.)
From: amber | 8/29/07 at 3:47 pm
passionate subject!
i just got married in may, and i was horrified to see a guest (a date of a guest) wearing head to toe white. i'm 25, and consider myself quite hip, too.
From: ellen | 8/29/07 at 4:03 pm
Goodness! I cannot believe how **rude** some of those comments were in that post. While I agree with the general sentiment about not wearing white unless you're the bride, I think some of those comments got a little out of hand! I don't think it was necessary for people to get snippy and hashly critical. Eesh!
From: LP | 8/29/07 at 4:27 pm
You wore off-white to a wedding. A fashion mistake? Perhaps. But certainly not worthy of such an onslaught of harassment. Let's keep things in perspective--you didn't hurt anyone intentionally, unlike some of the people who commented on your post.
From: Emily | 8/29/07 at 7:40 pm
It's definitely an interesting subject, even for modern brides to stay away from tradition. I remember going through a rentals brochure and saw that you could rent potato sacks. I told my fiance that we should rent them and the bouncers at my wedding would dole them out to those who wore white. In fact, now I'm really going to consider it... jk.
From: Kelly Mahoney | 8/29/07 at 7:48 pm
I had no idea it was such a touchy subject. You're the bride whether you wear white, purple or green, regardless of what other people are wearing.
From: Mark | 8/29/07 at 10:50 pm
I was once told that: "Anyone can find someone who agrees with their way of thinking if you ask enough people." - this may have proven that theory wrong.
From: Tameika | 8/30/07 at 10:00 am
I agree that most of the comments got way out of hand. There is no reason to attack one's character or result to petty name calling and foul language. But, I stand by my original comment that you should not have worn white. I hope you (and other wedding guests) will be more considerate in the future. If there is even the slightest chance you will offend (as evidenced by the numerous posts stating so), you should err on the side of caution and steer clear of white. Or in the case of Indian and Chinese weddings red. Or whatever color the bride is wearing. Give her the day. It's not about you, it's about the couple. You were invited to a part of a special day for 2 people, not to try to be a fashionista.
From: marisa | 8/30/07 at 11:47 am
some of those comments were really personal and inappropriate - really out of hand. ladies, can i suggest that we offer our opinions from now on without calling names or cursing? geez.
From: Mar | 8/30/07 at 12:16 pm
Okay, I totally am of the opinion of NOT wearing any type of white, cream and/or beige to a wedding....unless of course you're the bride....but man, some of those comments where just horrific and rude and so childish!!!
Darcy, you're an incredibly talented individual....just don't wear any white, cream or beige to a wedding again. Done!!! =)
From: emily | 8/30/07 at 2:31 pm
Some of you bloggers need to get a grip. Darcy Miller Kicks Ass.
From: Caroline | 8/30/07 at 3:27 pm
You guys are all crazy. Getting all choked up over a dress?!? Lighten up! She looked great and she didn't upstage the bride. Good grief people. Emily- we should start a DARCY MILLER KICKS ASS CLUB
P.S. Darcy good luck with all the internet crazies out there!
From: ellen | 8/30/07 at 4:52 pm
Hee! Sign me up for the DARCY MILLER KICKS ASS CLUB. And I mean *harshly not hashly in my earlier comment ;o)
From: Katie | 8/30/07 at 5:15 pm
Though, I wouldn't advise wearing white, I would wear black!
However, it seems very hypocritical of several commenting readers to unbecomingly blast you for that faux pas. I would say that several of those people committed a much more severe act by saying such rude things. Much more disconcerting than a guest wearing white to a wedding.
From: katie | 8/30/07 at 5:17 pm
Just wondering...what if the bride is wearing red....can you wear red? or white?
From: Kelly | 8/31/07 at 11:50 am
Most of the comments are themselves tacky by being outright rude. That said, if one manners guru says no to wearing white, I would have stuck with the safe side and respected tradition. I'm sure even if the bride was ok with it, others were disappointed by the choice(or as in the photo, you upstage the bride). You only get one wedding day- let the bride shine, skip the white.
From: Berta | 9/20/07 at 11:07 pm
For Chinese weddings - I honestly can't remember any sort of color admonitions other than white (the color of mourning). In the weddings I've been to, I've seen the MOB wear shades of red - I think people are supposed to wear these "happy" colors. My mom wore a burgundy qipao to my wedding.
From: colsmoh | 9/26/07 at 11:26 pm
I just read the earlier posts and they were pretty crazy, but I have seen a whole other reason not to wear a shade of white to a wedding: The bride herself doesn't always wear white. I was MOH at a desert wedding where the bride wore blue and a guest wore a very pretty long white lace dress that looked more "bridal" than the bride's dress, even though hers was a lot fancier than the white one. It looked weird at the wedding and it looks weird in pictures.
Seems like common sense to stay away from white more than etiquette, even.
Personally, I don't wear black to a wedding, but I don't frown on anyone else who does. It's nice to have a good occasion for colors.